Living the “Possible Life” and Loving It


Are you too hard on yourself? Do you exhaust yourself in a quest for perfection?

Living each day with a sense of pleasure and accepting imperfection is an art. We can learn to savor “perfect moments” rather than strive for a more perfect life. Join us on the path from perfectionism to balance and freedom!

Denver Workshop-

The People House, 3035 W. 25th Ave. Denver. Sunday, April 22, 3-5 PM.

Cost: $25 Pre-registration is necessary. Call me or email to register or for more info. 720-460-0758 or  You can also join our Mind/Brain Explorations Meetup.

10 Tips to Calm Stage Fright

MUNYauditionPanelDoes just thinking about that audition coming up get your heart racing? Here are some practical steps (besides lots of practice!) that will keep you in the Zone to ensure that you will do your best. First of all, realize that you do need a dose of anxiety to provide pizzazz to your performance and lift it above your daily practice.

  • Way before the audition date, learn basic relaxation skills that will help you manage stress. You might try yoga or meditation or something as simple as loading your phone with music that calms you.
  • Even easier and more basic, learn to breathe deeply and slowly. When you are too nervous, you breathe more shallowly. This is counterproductive to the strong breath you need for a rich, deep tone or to hold long notes, or even to introduce your piece and project your voice. Exhale fully and hold it a short time before starting the inhale. Hold it again before the exhale, making the exhalation slightly longer than the inhalation. As you exhale into deeper relaxation with each breath, say “Peace” to yourself.
  • Mentally rehearse each passage of your piece. Olympic athletes imagine themselves going through each motion that will bring them over the finish line and see their arms raised in glory.
  • Mentally rehearse your stage presence. See yourself taking nice deep breaths before walking on stage, taking a few moments to gather yourself and breath before greeting the faculty and then signaling to the pianist.
  • Carry yourself as if you are the chosen performer. “Fake it till you make it!” Watch Amy Cuddy’s Ted Talk on Power Poses. Changing your posture doesn’t just make you feel and look more confident, but it gives you a surge of hormones to make it true!
  • Allow plenty of time to park, find the room, go to the bathroom and do your self-soothing techniques. Nothing worse than getting stuck in traffic and rushing to your appointment.
  • Take time to eat! Keep your blood sugar levels stable by having some protein. Don’t just grab a quick pastry. Anxiety is lot worse with blood sugar crashes.
  • Sleep! Get to bed early enough that even if you spend some time tossing and turning, you sleep as much as possible. Use your deep breathing skills to drift off and get restored for the next day.
  • Limit caffeine. This is not the time to go “cold turkey” on your morning cup of coffee, but don’t overdo it. Limit the ice tea and caffeinated sodas, too.
  • Dress comfortably. Yes, you want to look like a successful performer, that’s part of “faking it till you make it”, but it’s not the time to squeeze into something a little tight, or wear a complicated accessory that might slip off, or shoes that hurt your feet.

And finally, say a little mantra to yourself as you begin, like 16-year-old gymnast Laurie Hernandez did, right before winning the gold in Rio, “I’ve got this!” and know that you really do!

Call 720-460-0758 for your Free Consultation and click here to find out more about the Hypnosis for Stage Fright Program!


Hypnosis for Music Performance

You are opening the letter you’ve been waiting for and overjoyed to see the words, “You are invited to audition.” The excitement lasts a a week or two, as you share the news with your friends and family. But, as you meet with your teacher and choose your pieces and begin practicing for the day to show what you can do, your anxiety starts to grow.

Fear is a protective defense mechanism that brings focus and energy for you to protect yourself from an actual danger. Anxiety is another matter. While a little stress and concern motivates you to practice, just a tad more will start your fingers shaking and make it hard for you to catch a deep breath-just the issues that will prevent you from a great performance.

With hypno-coaching for musicians, offered by Technologies of the Self, you will be able to lose yourself in your score. Not only will your technical ability shine, but you will feel so confident that your passion will flow.

If you’ve noticed how much better you play when you are home alone, you can benefit from the support that hypnotic tools can provide. You will easily forget your environment or who is listening, and your fear of making mistakes and you will find yourself playing or singing, like never before.

Your performance coach, Victoria Bresee, has many techniques to share with you that you can use during an audition, concert, or when you are trying out for First Chair. She successfully coached her own sons to win entrance and full scholarships to top notch art institutes.

You will learn simple tools that you can use to enhance your memory and concentration and to feel relaxed and confident in the minutes before and during your performance so you can show your talent to anyone.

While many feel empowered with just one session, we offer several options to fit your needs for support.

  • Through a simple brain nature assessment you will learn how diet and natural supplements can support your memory, concentration, make sure that you sleep well, and provide relief from stress.
  • With bio-feedback sessions you can train yourself to create high coherence between your heart and brain, bringing your creativity and concentration into the Zone.
  • Learn self-hypnosis techniques to moderate your brain waves either for deep relaxation or for heightened awareness and focus for a brilliant performance.
  • During guided visualizations, while you are in a relaxed, suggestible state, you will see yourself performing with virtuosity, creativity, and passion, creating the neural pathways to make it happen in real life.


The deluxe package to get you through the audition/tryout season includes an initial consultation, a brain nutrition self-assessment, 3 hypnotherapy sessions, and a refresher session via MP3. Those that pay for the complete package in advance ($495) will receive 1 free in-person session and 2 20-minute phone sessions to use immediately before an audition or performance.

Individual sessions usually last 1-1/2 hours, at $125 per session. Call Victoria at 720-460-0758 to schedule a consultation and for more information.

In person sessions are available in Denver, Colorado. Phone and Skype sessions are also available and are equally effective.

30 Uses of Hypnosis

This is not an exhaustive list, but is designed to give you an idea of the range of conditions that can be helped at Technologies of the Self.

  • Addictions-Smoking Cessation, Substance Abuse
  • Anger Management
  • Bedwetting
  • Career/Financial Success
  • Confidence/Motivation/Self Esteem, Self Image
  • Eating Disorders
  • Eczema
  • Fear of Heights, Water, Flying, Fear of Doctors, Dentists, Medical Procedures
  • Headaches
  • Immune System Support
  • Insomnia
  • Irritable Bowel Syndrome
  • Memory, Concentration
  • Nail Biting
  • Pain Management
  • Panic Attacks
  • Phobias, Agoraphobia
  • Psoriasis
  • Fear of Public Speaking
  • Relationship Enhancement
  • Recovery from Surgery
  • Relaxation
  • Sexual Problems
  • Smoking Cessation
  • Sports / Work Performance
  • Stress / Anxieties/Worry
  • Study Habits
  • Test/Performance Anxiety, Stage Fright
  • Weight Loss
  • Writer’s Block

Some issues can be resolved in just one session. Others may take a series. For some conditions, a medical referral will be requested. We believe that a team approach offers the greatest support, so we are happy to collaborate with your psychologist and/or medical professional.

Call 720-460-0758 to set up a free consultation to find out how our services can help you find relief from a challenging condition or to achieve your personal goals more effectively.